I hear a lot of people talking about how they treat others and how they’re always there when needed (and, trust me, I see and hear a lot of people in my fifty hour weeks). It’s one of those things that I think most of us want to be known for. We want to be seen as kind, considerate, and helpful. However, it’s come to my attention, through some recent events around me (not to me, I was just present), that those who are most insistent on being there when others need them are the first to complain when they’re called upon to do just that. Come to think of it, it’s those same people who are always needing someone to come to their call.
I have to admit that this bugs me. I guess I’m just weird, but I think that if you tell someone you’re going to do something, then you need to do it, whether it’s convenient or not. I think honoring our word is one of the best things we can do as human beings, no matter what it’s about. (It’s just as important to send the email you promised to send as it is to take Grandma to the doctor.) It doesn’t matter if you forgot that your favorite TV show was on that night or that you had to do laundry. If you commit to something, it needs to get done. Period. (Unless you get hit by a falling piano or something. You know, an emergency. They happen.)
I don’t know. Maybe I just live in the wrong era or something, or maybe it’s just stupid of me to think that people in this day and age can say what they mean and mean what they say. Perhaps my standards for my fellow man are simply too high (I hold myself to the same ones), or maybe I just don’t get the social convention of saying something you don’t mean (Sheldon Cooper moment here). Who knows?
Are honesty and trustworthiness simply traits from bygone years that have no place in the modern world? Have we gotten so self-centered that the simple concept of honoring our word is too complex for us to understand? What do you think?